The rising buzz on Emotional Intelligence, how it terribly affects you, and 3 impeccable reasons why you should be concerned

Why is there so much buzz about Emotional Intelligence these days? ♥️ Apparently, Emotional Intelligence is the surest determinant of success and fulfillment in life. Did you know this? And what does it mean to you? Do you get emotionally stressed from your work and other duties? Do you wish there was more peace in your life?

Years of intensive research on ‘Productivity, and Happiness’ has revealed that, even though each person is inwardly capable of being highly and truly fulfilled in life and extremely productive, sadly, most people are not productive, just as most people are not truly fulfilled in life! You may click here to see specific examples.

One of the leading factors that contribute to this lack of true fulfillment in life is the lack of proper or adequate emotional intelligence! Indeed, the world in recent times is rising up to the need to pay attention to this all important issue as it has been found to influence the chances of getting hired, and / or the chances of being promoted in an organisation; or otherwise the chances of succeeding in business. Indeed, the World Economic Forum (in 2016) ranked Emotional Intelligence as one of the top 10 skills employees needed by 2020 to succeed in the workplace. In this ‘introductory’ presentation therefore, and the ones to follow, we will look at what Emotional Intelligence really is, the full spectrum of factors that make it absolutely necessary to dare to become more emotionally intelligent, and then what it takes to actually achieve high / full levels of emotional intelligence.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

A simple working definition of Emotional Intelligence (EI) is… ‘The ability to recognise and manage your emotions effectively, and also recognise and manage the emotions of other people positively.’ It involves being able to identify, use, understand, and manage all types of emotions in an effective and positive way.  And there are many elements / components to it, the core ones being: (i) self-awareness, (ii) self-regulation, (iii) motivation, (iv) empathy, and (v) social skills. They are skills that you can learn, practice, and master like all other skills; just commit to it, and allow yourself to learn.

Self-awareness refers to the ability to recognise and understand your own emotions as and when they occur.

Self-regulation refers to the ability to regulate and manage your emotions as and when they occur.

Motivation refers to the ability to maintain a passion to fulfill needs and goals based on internal drive more than external rewards like fame, money, recognition, and acclaim.

Empathy refers to the ability to recognise and understand how others are feeling, place yourself in their shoes, and respond positively to them.

Social skills refers to the ability to interact well with others under various circumstances.

Again, these entail various principles, techniques and strategies that you can learn, practice, and master; those specific principles, techniques and strategies shall be discussed subsequent to this introductory article. The rest of the presentation will thus focus on why Emotional Intelligence matters so much.

Why does Emotional Intelligence matter so much?

Emotional Intelligence is the surest determinant of success and fulfillment in life.

It is that which characterises and distinguishes top-performers; it sets them apart! They are able to work calmly even under pressure, and stay positive in difficult situations; while they take the necessary steps to effectively solve problems and deliver pleasing results. Indeed, the skills that embody emotional intelligence are key to the jobs of the future, and reliably predict work place success far better than cognitive skills (as represented by IQ and other measures of intelligence). So people who are emotionally intelligent are likely to get hired (when looking for a job position) or otherwise get promoted faster (when already on a job) and if they are running their own businesses, they are likely to succeed exceptionally, and more easily. There seem to be a global consensus that IQ contributes to just about 20 percent of the factors that determine success in life, and that EQ (Emotional Quotient; another way of representing EI) accounts for the other 80 percent. In hundreds of studies, IQ has been found to be a very small factor when predicting success.

A renowned psychologist by name Daniel Goleman looked at more than 100 competence models from corporations, NGOs and governments and found out that the common set of abilities that identified people who were outstanding had nothing to do with cognitive abilities (as measured by IQ), but rather EI (Emotional Intelligence; as measured by EQ). He recalls an earlier study that Harvard University (one of the best in the world) conducted when he was a graduate student there. The study (conducted across the business school, medical school, law school, and education school) was to find out how well the graduate school entry exams predicted success in the respective careers. The correlation was zero! Meaning: a person’s success in a chosen field had (and still has) nothing to do with his / her congnitive intelligence (IQ) at the time of completing the first degree.

The board of trustees at Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT; one of the best universities in the world) once commissioned a study to see who the biggest donors among their alumni were and what characterised them when they were students times back. And the results were shocking! It wasn’t the people who were absolutely brilliant all the way through school who ended up being so successful that they could give MIT hundreds of millions of dollars; rather, it was people who were good enough to get into MIT and good enough to complete successfully but then who had other extra-curricula abilities prior to entering MIT. For example, they had been team captains, club presidents, started their own businesses on the side while schooling, and so on. Those were the people who became the founders and heads of companies that grew to be big enough that they could afford to give the biggest donations to their alma mater.

Emotional Intelligence will enable you to have exciting (and the most effective) relationships; be it social, business, marriage / marital, etc.

It will especially enable you to handle the essential tough conversations that necessarily come up in various relationships; difficult conversations are the kind that have the potential to stir up all sorts of emotions; e.g. the reaction of an angry partner or customer, etc. An emotionally intelligent person is able to take control of the conflicts that arise from time to time and steer them in a meaningfully way to achieve pleasing results.

When two or more people come together to accomplish any objective (e.g. marriage, business, project, etc.) a team situation arises; though that team may need to go through some 4 stages of progression (i. Forming, ii. Storming, iii. Norming, and iv. Performing) in order to become most effective. When members in a team are of high levels of emotional intelligence, they work together beautifully (there is better, effective and efficient teamwork) and they achieve exceptional results. This is because each member is able to quickly build trust in (and with) the other(s) in the team. They value one another’s inputs; especially when a member makes any suggestion, they don’t find it difficult to respond in a positive, honest and productive way. So each member is able to express his / her opinion (both verbally and non-verbally) without fear of intimidation / rejection.

You realise that Emotional intelligence is an essential leadership skill, and that persons, companies and organisations that are yet to pay attention to this all important skill are doing themselves a great deal of harm; especially when you consider that…

Indeed, persons, companies and organisations that have high levels of emotional intelligence will always be a step ahead of their peers, and / or their competitors. Emotional intelligence allows for a truly peaceful work / life environment that ensures success in a relatively shorter time.

Emotional Intelligence can help you to deal with change situations more smoothly; even the unexpected ones.

It is said that the only thing that is constant in life is ‘change.’ However it is not easy to embrace change / innovation (especially abrupt ones) except with emotional intelligence. Typically people (by default) respond to change in the work / business environment with negative attitudes; however, a person with emotional intelligence can be positive and even inspire colleagues to be equally positive in the face of any such change. People with high emotional intelligence can turn seemingly negative situations into an opportunity; consequently they progress more easily in business and in life.

There are so many case studies to illustrate or buttress the foregoing reasons why you should be concerned about emotional intelligence; I will cite a few...

Two of the incidences that hit the headlines in week thirty-seven of 2019 were that, Gregory Eells (Executive director of counseling and psychological services, and head of mental health services at University of Pennsylvania) and Jarrid Wilson (Pastor, and author of “Love Is Oxygen: How God Can Give You Life and Change Your World“) had committed suicide; may their souls rest in peace.

For several years, Matthew Warren (the son of a world renowned evangelical pastor) faced mental health challenges, and eventually committed suicide in 2013; may his soul rest in peace. Following his son’s demise, Rick Warren (who’s also author of an international bestseller:The Purpose Driven Life) on returning to the pulpit after 16 weeks break had this to say: “In spite of America’s best doctors, meds, counselors, and prayers for healing, the torture of mental illness never subsided. Today, after a fun evening together with Kay and me, in a momentary wave of despair at his home, he took his life.” He also said… “I was in shock for at least a month after Matthew took his life.” “For 27 years I prayed every day of my life for God to heal my son’s mental illness.” But Rick further said that he intended to turn his grief into a message of service and hope.

Those were very sad incidences but not uncommon; everyday people commit suicide, and that cuts across all classes of people. Also, many people contemplate suicide but don’t get to execute it; some also attempt suicide but somehow do not get to complete it. (And as you might have figured out by now, this includes Christians and persons of other religions.) It’s that serious! The point is that life can be very tough!

One accident that shook Ghana (and indeed the world) in 2009 was the one that took the lives of 2 daughters of Rev. Eastwood Anaba, and 4 other church members; may their souls rest in peace. The group was travelling from Tamale to Bolgatanga to attend the church’s annual Easter Convention dubbed International Extra Oil Conference. News reached him before mounting the pulpit; he went ahead and preached!

Indeed, life in this complicatedly complex world is a tough one – ordinarily; it means there will be many situations that will arouse various forms of emotions, which if not well managed can affect you negatively; your health and your wealth; life can hit you quite unexpectedly. So it’s better to prepare ahead (in a sense, emotional insurance) so that, even though you should not wish for it, in case the unexpected happens, you will not be caught on the wrong foot. Also, you have to learn to harness your true / hidden potential and get to live a truly fulfilling life. And as has been demonstrated over and over in various researches; the surest way out is to learn to become very emotionally intelligent.

How can you become very Emotionally Intelligent?

Option 1

Get the emotional intelligence reference manuals

Option 2

Join our emotional intelligence masterclass

You will get to know and acquire the Zing4Life! principles for super emotional intelligence…

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EGYIR is passionate about helping serious people like you to escape the most dangerous — common but avoidable — problem most people (rich, poor, educated, uneducated, religious, and non-religious alike) face in life. Also, he designs and builds beautiful, cost-effective and functional buildings, and graphics. And he helps executives, marketers, and business owners to make effective presentations; what you may call winning presentations. He is an Architect, a Designer, and a Life Coach. And an Entrepreneur. Especially as a life-coach, he has been popularly adjudged the best coach for excelling in education, increasing wealth, eliminating stress, and enjoying true fulfillment in life! Egyir understands life thoroughly and shares amazingly liberating insights from a uniquely empowering perspective. He has a firm conviction that, “The greatest tragedy in life is that majority of people have accepted to be less than they were born to be and are thus accomplishing far less than their true capabilities.” To that end, he authored (wrote) Purpose Compass, the exceptional life-coaching book that reveals 4 habits that are currently making your life difficult, or otherwise may soon make your life difficult, but which your parent, teacher, or pastor would dare not talk about; how to escape them and get to live a stress-free life of purpose faster! And 13 other equally amazing books that constitute the Zing4Life! Series. Egyir is also lead promoter of the electronic, trendy and amazing Smart Business Card, the only business card you’ll ever need, for the executive in you! He is a husband, and a father of two. Positionally, he is the Lead Founder and CEO of Seers, Associate of Arthro Synergeio, Lay Preacher of The Methodist Church Ghana, Global Lead Advocate of Zing4Life! and Volunteer Mentor with iMentor Ghana. To see more about him you may click here. #WeAreSeers | To get in touch with Egyir or to follow him on social media you may click here. #EgyirGuidesDaily | To support his writing & life-coaching social ministry you may click here. #SeersFoundation | To be part of Egyir's live sessions online at 20.30 GMT on Sundays you may click here. #TimeWithSeers |

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